JUDGING OTHERS

I found this quote today by Wayne Dyer and thought just how unbelievably  true this is.  When you really think about it, how we treat people and in turn how we are treated, really is all about you and nothing to do with how others view your or their actions at all.

"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself."

(Wayne Dyer) - "I'll See It When I Believe it" 

The old saying still goes "Treat others as you would like to be treated yourself"  This is a very hard thing to do sometimes, trust me I know,  but you can take comfort in how you have handled things and responded to a situation, and be separated from how you are perceived for doing so. Be proud of your actions with little or no reflection on other people's judgement or ridicule.  In a nutshell "Be true to yourself". 

When you are angry, sad, hurting or scared, you may find yourself in judgement mode. 

You wonder to yourself why that person did that, or why they said that, why? why? why?  If you try and focus on the fact that it really is their journey and their "stuff" then one emotion that comes that comes to you instantly is a feeling of relief. (Try it! Seriously it does work) Relief in the fact that you can't be responsible for their actions or words. Again it is their "stuff".  This does not mean you don't love or care for them, it just means you accept who they are and what they do.

If you reacted in a critical, angry and aggressive way then the quote above is completely appropriate to your situation.  Unfortunately this is the time we really have to look at ourselves and no other.  I can't say that you can cut off your emotions or feelings instantly.  This would not be realistic at all, but being conscious of your words and actions will certainly lessen the pain and resentment you may feel toward another and eventually you will certainly feel good about yourself and that sense of relief will remain.

Imagine a world with no judgement or ridicule, no control, no abuse, no anger.  Impossible? Yes for some people it would be, but by acknowledging yourself and how you deal with situations you really can change your perspective on yours and others lives in general.  

It's a long road for all of us and with every day we are still learning new things.  Maybe this could be one of them................

Love and care   GIRL E BUSINESS